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You don't have to be half naked and wear 20lbs of makeup to get attention. 
Be confident and love yourself. 
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I’ve been called heartbreaker for doing justice to my own. #illustration #graphicdesign #creative #bnw #fashion #dress #turtleneck #cold #heartbreak #selflove #midnight #sketch #illustrator #design #jj
“My father had taught me to be nice first, because you can always be mean later, but once you’ve been mean to someone, they won’t believe the nice anymore. So be nice, be nice, until it’s time to stop being nice, then destroy them.” 🧨 #trans #transgender #ftm #selfmade #selflove #instagay #instagood #instadaily #quotes #feels #wontbeerased #queer #lgbt #pride #transformation #change #growth #progress #progressnotperfection #goodvibes #staylifted #lrg #liftedresearchgroup #selfie #ss #sunday #vibes

“My father had taught me to be nice first, because you can always be mean later, but once you’ve been mean to someone, they won’t believe the nice anymore. So be nice, be nice, until it’s time to stop being nice, then destroy them.” 🧨 #trans #transgender #ftm #selfmade #selflove #instagay #instagood #instadaily #quotes #feels #wontbeerased #queer #lgbt #pride #transformation #change #growth #progress #progressnotperfection #goodvibes #staylifted #lrg #liftedresearchgroup #selfie #ss #sunday #vibes

BE SO POSITIVE THAT NEGATIVE PEOPLE CANNOT STAND TO BE  AROUND YOU, HEAR YOUR VOICE OR EVEN BE IN YOUR PHYSICAL PRESENCE. DEMON ALWAYS RECONGNIZE EACH OTHER BENEATH THE SURFACE OF THE SKIN. WHEN YOU CHANGE RIGHT IN FRONT OF THEM THE DEMONS WITHIN BECOME AGGRAVATED ON BOTH SIDES. THEY CAN SMELL AND SEE GODS HAND ON YOU. THEY TRY YOU BUT DO NOT SUCCEED, SO THEY BEGIN TO FLEE QUICKLY. THE ANGELS COVER AS THEY WORK WITHIN YOU TO BRING UP THE LIGHT THAT NOW SURROUNDS YOU.  THAT  ATTRACTS MORE ANGELS WHO WALK IN LIGHT ALONG SIDE YOU. BEFORE YOU KNOW IT YOU ARE SURROUND BY THE LIGHT. REMEMBER, PEOPLE AFFECT YOUR LIFE IN A POSITIVE OR NEGATIVE WAY IF YOU ALLOW THEM TO. THE MINUTE YOU FREE YOUR SELF FROM THE EXPECTATIONS OF OTHERS YOU BECOME TOTALLY F R E E !
#FreedomToBeMe #AuthenticSelf 
#SelfLove #ConfidentInMySkin
#WhatYouThinkReallyMatters
#NotPerfectButYouAreWorthIt
#FightToBringTheLight #FreedomFighter 
#LoveOthersTheWayYouWantToBeLoved #Freedom💯✔

BE SO POSITIVE THAT NEGATIVE PEOPLE CANNOT STAND TO BE AROUND YOU, HEAR YOUR VOICE OR EVEN BE IN YOUR PHYSICAL PRESENCE. DEMON ALWAYS RECONGNIZE EACH OTHER BENEATH THE SURFACE OF THE SKIN. WHEN YOU CHANGE RIGHT IN FRONT OF THEM THE DEMONS WITHIN BECOME AGGRAVATED ON BOTH SIDES. THEY CAN SMELL AND SEE GODS HAND ON YOU. THEY TRY YOU BUT DO NOT SUCCEED, SO THEY BEGIN TO FLEE QUICKLY. THE ANGELS COVER AS THEY WORK WITHIN YOU TO BRING UP THE LIGHT THAT NOW SURROUNDS YOU. THAT ATTRACTS MORE ANGELS WHO WALK IN LIGHT ALONG SIDE YOU. BEFORE YOU KNOW IT YOU ARE SURROUND BY THE LIGHT. REMEMBER, PEOPLE AFFECT YOUR LIFE IN A POSITIVE OR NEGATIVE WAY IF YOU ALLOW THEM TO. THE MINUTE YOU FREE YOUR SELF FROM THE EXPECTATIONS OF OTHERS YOU BECOME TOTALLY F R E E ! #FreedomToBeMe #AuthenticSelf #SelfLove #ConfidentInMySkin #WhatYouThinkReallyMatters #NotPerfectButYouAreWorthIt #FightToBringTheLight #FreedomFighter #LoveOthersTheWayYouWantToBeLoved #Freedom 💯✔

How’s everyone feeling After Venus retrograde is done? I feel like I have gained so much self respect and love I could burst! I’m sending all the love to all of you. #thequeenofgoodvibes #lifecoach #lifecoaching #spiritualitycoach #venusretrograde #thirdeyethoughts #selflove

How’s everyone feeling After Venus retrograde is done? I feel like I have gained so much self respect and love I could burst! I’m sending all the love to all of you. #thequeenofgoodvibes #lifecoach #lifecoaching #spiritualitycoach #venusretrograde #thirdeyethoughts #selflove

Le'Table! This is @sunsunorgo7 third vending event! Thank you so much to @iamericabell for the opportunity! #girltalkbrunch is definitely a positive vibe and amazing platform for women! 
#girltalkbrunch #womensempowerment #havepurpose #naturalskincare #whippedbodybutter #sugarscrub #coffeescrub #selflove #namaste #lovetheskinyourein #supportsmallbusiness #supportwomen #girltalk #sunsunorgo #newjourney
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1000th post 🤪‼️ Y’all sleep on me fr 🥰😴‼️ • If viewing follow @zamirahhh.spammmm •follow • • •this • • • •page • • • • • • • • • • • • • #self #selfcare #selflove #baby #beautiful #explore #explorepage #2019 #rightback #bacctothebasics #billieeilish #famous #girl #citygirls #twerk #allme #nickiminaj #cardib #like #actupseason

Self Love , Self Help , Self Care should come before anything in life . Being on Journey to get fit actually gives you self love believe it or not . You feel better , more confident in your own body . Everyone should experience this ! #fitness #fitnessmodel #fitnessmotivation #80dayobsession #beachbodycoach #beachbody #beachbodyresults #selflove #selfhelp #selfcare *
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Self Love , Self Help , Self Care should come before anything in life . Being on Journey to get fit actually gives you self love believe it or not . You feel better , more confident in your own body . Everyone should experience this ! #fitness #fitnessmodel #fitnessmotivation #80dayobsession #beachbodycoach #beachbody #beachbodyresults #selflove #selfhelp #selfcare * * contact me today to get yourself fit without having to go to the gym and spending lots of nasty monthly payments on a. Gym membership

I read this today & it resonated with me 
Someone out there needs to read this 
You’re not alone ♥️
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Your trauma is valid 
Even if other people have experienced “worse” 
Even if someone else who went through the same experience doesn’t feel debilitated by it 
Even if it “could have been avoided” 
Even if it happened a long time ago 
Even if no one knows 
Your trauma is real and valid and you deserve a space to talk about it 
It isn’t desperate or pathetic or attention- seeking 
It’s self care 
It’s inconceivably brave 
And regardless of the magnitude of your struggle, you’re allowed to take care of yourself by processing and unloading some of the pain you carry 
Your pain matters 
And your healing matters 
Nothing and no one can take that away ♥️
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#selfcare #selflove #trauma #pain #selfworth #empoweringwomen #empowerment #healthierme #mindset #goals #validation #experience #healthylifestyle #strength #beyourself #mentalhealth #awareness

I read this today & it resonated with me Someone out there needs to read this You’re not alone ♥️ . . . Your trauma is valid Even if other people have experienced “worse” Even if someone else who went through the same experience doesn’t feel debilitated by it Even if it “could have been avoided” Even if it happened a long time ago Even if no one knows Your trauma is real and valid and you deserve a space to talk about it It isn’t desperate or pathetic or attention- seeking It’s self care It’s inconceivably brave And regardless of the magnitude of your struggle, you’re allowed to take care of yourself by processing and unloading some of the pain you carry Your pain matters And your healing matters Nothing and no one can take that away ♥️ . . . #selfcare #selflove #trauma #pain #selfworth #empoweringwomen #empowerment #healthierme #mindset #goals #validation #experience #healthylifestyle #strength #beyourself #mentalhealth #awareness

Sunday Selfcare: When we face a lot of chaos or hardship, we’ve been taught to brace our bodies more— to take it all on and endure. Our bodies are not made to be burdened with suffering. They are meant to be couriers of truth that grow & heal through healthy connection in relationship.

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If you are hurting or holding too much, let someone know. Allow them to hold some of it alongside of you. When we let others join us where we are, we can loosen and lean into our lives with more softness.

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Beautiful artwork by @tactilematter

Sunday Selfcare: When we face a lot of chaos or hardship, we’ve been taught to brace our bodies more— to take it all on and endure. Our bodies are not made to be burdened with suffering. They are meant to be couriers of truth that grow & heal through healthy connection in relationship. ___________________________ If you are hurting or holding too much, let someone know. Allow them to hold some of it alongside of you. When we let others join us where we are, we can loosen and lean into our lives with more softness. ___________________________ Beautiful artwork by @tactilematter

Grateful every day for my travel experiences and for all the people I’ve met along the way. Travelling IS for everyone, it’s important and it’s necessary for us to discover much more than we know. Special thanks to Meggy for coping with me being such a princess for a month and for being such a useless navigator #realmate 😂👸🏽 .
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#friends #selfcare #selflove #wellbeing #asia #southeastasia #cambodia #island #portrait #landscape #nature #beach #explore #explorers #travel #traveling #travelling #adventure #getoutside #instatravel #travelgram #wanderlust #stayandwonder #justgoshoot #exploretocreate #agameoftones #vacation #holiday #travelphotography

Grateful every day for my travel experiences and for all the people I’ve met along the way. Travelling IS for everyone, it’s important and it’s necessary for us to discover much more than we know. Special thanks to Meggy for coping with me being such a princess for a month and for being such a useless navigator #realmate 😂👸🏽 . . . #friends #selfcare #selflove #wellbeing #asia #southeastasia #cambodia #island #portrait #landscape #nature #beach #explore #explorers #travel #traveling #travelling #adventure #getoutside #instatravel #travelgram #wanderlust #stayandwonder #justgoshoot #exploretocreate #agameoftones #vacation #holiday #travelphotography

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The beginning of many posts that will only be of salads made with self expression in mind. I often grow the vegetables I use in my salads. #myartsalad #artsalad #artsalads #art #foodart #tasty #vegetables #veggies #vegetarian #vegan #foodie #foodies #pretty #tasty #salad #gardening #healthfood #organic #growyourown #growyourownfood #selflove #artist #pretty #foodporn #love #playwithyourfood #mysaladart #gardenlovers #foodphotography #art

Check the link in our bio to get FREE sample seeds pack and other premium garden seeds and items now! Credit to picture owner! The beginning of many posts that will only be of salads made with self expression in mind. I often grow the vegetables I use in my salads. #myartsalad #artsalad #artsalads #art #foodart #tasty #vegetables #veggies #vegetarian #vegan #foodie #foodies #pretty #tasty #salad #gardening #healthfood #organic #growyourown #growyourownfood #selflove #artist #pretty #foodporn #love #playwithyourfood #mysaladart #gardenlovers #foodphotography #art

Embrace change & make it an habbit 💚✌ #mememikey🤙

Embrace change & make it an habbit 💚✌ #mememikey 🤙

Recovery is a lot like family photos. You think it’s going to go one way and it goes completely opposite. With time you learn more and more how to roll with the punches and just keep going. Happy Sunday from my family to yours!! ❤️🖤

Recovery is a lot like family photos. You think it’s going to go one way and it goes completely opposite. With time you learn more and more how to roll with the punches and just keep going. Happy Sunday from my family to yours!! ❤️🖤

You owe no one apologies for happiness after all you've been through. 
Think kind thoughts.

There are people not matured enough to see your struggles to make things right. No matter how hard you tried, they never get past your past, as if they have none too. 
You show them your today, their response is like your yesterday is more important.

#Rejected, #Forsaken by someone or people your loved? This can be very painful but you can be whole without them.. if you're willing.  #selfcare #selflove #Singlemom #Singledad #Single #madam #Success #Hope

You owe no one apologies for happiness after all you've been through. Think kind thoughts. There are people not matured enough to see your struggles to make things right. No matter how hard you tried, they never get past your past, as if they have none too. You show them your today, their response is like your yesterday is more important. #Rejected , #Forsaken by someone or people your loved? This can be very painful but you can be whole without them.. if you're willing. #selfcare #selflove #Singlemom #Singledad #Single #madam #Success #Hope

Self Love , Self Help , Self Care should come before anything in life . Being on Journey to get fit actually gives you self love believe it or not . You feel better , more confident in your own body . Everyone should experience this ! #fitness #fitnessmodel #fitnessmotivation #80dayobsession #beachbodycoach #beachbody #beachbodyresults #selflove #selfhelp #selfcare *
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Self Love , Self Help , Self Care should come before anything in life . Being on Journey to get fit actually gives you self love believe it or not . You feel better , more confident in your own body . Everyone should experience this ! #fitness #fitnessmodel #fitnessmotivation #80dayobsession #beachbodycoach #beachbody #beachbodyresults #selflove #selfhelp #selfcare * * contact me today to get yourself fit without having to go to the gym and spending lots of nasty monthly payments on a. Gym membership

Foster puppies melt my heart 😭
Lexie was sitting there and she wanted me to hold her paw. I’m crying, she’s too precious

Foster puppies melt my heart 😭 Lexie was sitting there and she wanted me to hold her paw. I’m crying, she’s too precious

Lieber @riccardosimonetti ,
vielen Dank für deinen #iamstrongerthanbullying Aufruf, der sicherlich viele berührt und Betroffenen Mut macht, ihre persönliche Geschichte und die damit verbundenen negativen Erfahrungen zu teilen. Die wichtigste Frage dabei ist doch, wie gehen wir damit um? Als Kind, als Teenager, als Erwachsener? 
Ob rote Haare oder weil ich (gerne!) die abgelegten Jungsklamotten meines großen Bruders getragen habe oder weil ich die einzige Person im Klassenzimmer war, die nicht wie alle anderen auf Take That stand, sondern totaler #East17 Fan war...Es tat weh, vor allem die Sache mit den roten Haaren. Es war immer wieder Thema. Du fällst halt auf, wenn du auf einer Schule mit wenigen paar hundert Kindern bist und du das einzige rothaarige Wesen dort bist. "Feuermelder" haben sie mich genannt. Wie ein Alien. Das schlimmste war aber, dass in dem Dorf, in dem ich aufgewachsen bin, ein Vater seinem Sohn befahl, mich zu verprügeln, weil es ja keine Scheiterhaufen mehr gäbe, um Rothaarige zu verbrennen. Der Sohn hat mich mehr als einmal erwischt. Damals war ich sieben und er 2 Jahre älter. Ich konnte mich damals nicht wehren, wie auch? Warum? Warum bin ich anders? Warum bin ich falsch? Warum? Egal was vorgefallen war, das beschäftigt dich Tage, Wochen, Monate, vielleicht sogar Jahre? 
Die Antwort auf so ein Verhalten liegt in der Erziehung, in den Köpfen! Sagt euren Kindern, sie sind wundervoll, so wie sie sind, nehmt ihnen nicht ihr angeborenes Selbstvertrauen, indem ihr eurem Kind sagt, es sei dumm, weil es einen Fehler gemacht hat, erzieht sie selbstbewusst und tolerant und formt sie nicht zu etwas, das sie nicht sind. Sagt ihnen, sie sind einzigartig genau so wie sie sind und genau so, sind sie toll❣Selbstliebe lässt uns wachsen und über solche Dinge stehen. Wenn wir mit uns selbst im Reinen sind, verfallen wir nicht (als Kind oder Erwachsener) in Unzufriedenheit und nörgeln an uns oder anderen!!! rum.  Die Welt hat größere Probleme (in den Köpfen)! Leben und leben lassen!

Heute liebe ich meine Haare und überhaupt bin ich stolz auf mich mit allem was mich ausmacht 💪🖤 "Sei heute die erwachsene Person, die du als Kind immer sein wolltest"✌💋

Lieber @riccardosimonetti , vielen Dank für deinen #iamstrongerthanbullying Aufruf, der sicherlich viele berührt und Betroffenen Mut macht, ihre persönliche Geschichte und die damit verbundenen negativen Erfahrungen zu teilen. Die wichtigste Frage dabei ist doch, wie gehen wir damit um? Als Kind, als Teenager, als Erwachsener? Ob rote Haare oder weil ich (gerne!) die abgelegten Jungsklamotten meines großen Bruders getragen habe oder weil ich die einzige Person im Klassenzimmer war, die nicht wie alle anderen auf Take That stand, sondern totaler #East17 Fan war...Es tat weh, vor allem die Sache mit den roten Haaren. Es war immer wieder Thema. Du fällst halt auf, wenn du auf einer Schule mit wenigen paar hundert Kindern bist und du das einzige rothaarige Wesen dort bist. "Feuermelder" haben sie mich genannt. Wie ein Alien. Das schlimmste war aber, dass in dem Dorf, in dem ich aufgewachsen bin, ein Vater seinem Sohn befahl, mich zu verprügeln, weil es ja keine Scheiterhaufen mehr gäbe, um Rothaarige zu verbrennen. Der Sohn hat mich mehr als einmal erwischt. Damals war ich sieben und er 2 Jahre älter. Ich konnte mich damals nicht wehren, wie auch? Warum? Warum bin ich anders? Warum bin ich falsch? Warum? Egal was vorgefallen war, das beschäftigt dich Tage, Wochen, Monate, vielleicht sogar Jahre? Die Antwort auf so ein Verhalten liegt in der Erziehung, in den Köpfen! Sagt euren Kindern, sie sind wundervoll, so wie sie sind, nehmt ihnen nicht ihr angeborenes Selbstvertrauen, indem ihr eurem Kind sagt, es sei dumm, weil es einen Fehler gemacht hat, erzieht sie selbstbewusst und tolerant und formt sie nicht zu etwas, das sie nicht sind. Sagt ihnen, sie sind einzigartig genau so wie sie sind und genau so, sind sie toll❣Selbstliebe lässt uns wachsen und über solche Dinge stehen. Wenn wir mit uns selbst im Reinen sind, verfallen wir nicht (als Kind oder Erwachsener) in Unzufriedenheit und nörgeln an uns oder anderen!!! rum. Die Welt hat größere Probleme (in den Köpfen)! Leben und leben lassen! Heute liebe ich meine Haare und überhaupt bin ich stolz auf mich mit allem was mich ausmacht 💪🖤 "Sei heute die erwachsene Person, die du als Kind immer sein wolltest"✌💋

필터 맘에 안드는데
나 작년에 좀 귀여웠어
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#얼스타그램 #셀스타그램 #셀카 #셀피 #셀샷 #포토 
#데일리 #데일리그램 #daily #오오티디 #ootd
#일상 #일상스타그램 #self #selflove #selfie
#likeforlikes #like4likes #likeforfollow #likelike #likeme 
#followme #follow #follow4followback 
#좋아요 #좋아요테러 #광주 #상무지구 #수완지구 #동명동

필터 맘에 안드는데 나 작년에 좀 귀여웠어 . . . #얼스타그램 #셀스타그램 #셀카 #셀피 #셀샷 #포토 #데일리 #데일리그램 #daily #오오티디 #ootd #일상 #일상스타그램 #self #selflove #selfie #likeforlikes #like4likes #likeforfollow #likelike #likeme #followme #follow #follow4followback #좋아요 #좋아요테러 #광주 #상무지구 #수완지구 #동명동

Self Love , Self Help , Self Care should come before anything in life . Being on Journey to get fit actually gives you self love believe it or not . You feel better , more confident in your own body . Everyone should experience this ! #fitness #fitnessmodel #fitnessmotivation #80dayobsession #beachbodycoach #beachbody #beachbodyresults #selflove #selfhelp #selfcare *
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contact me today to get yourself fit without having to go to the gym and spending lots of nasty monthly payments on a. Gym membership

Self Love , Self Help , Self Care should come before anything in life . Being on Journey to get fit actually gives you self love believe it or not . You feel better , more confident in your own body . Everyone should experience this ! #fitness #fitnessmodel #fitnessmotivation #80dayobsession #beachbodycoach #beachbody #beachbodyresults #selflove #selfhelp #selfcare * * contact me today to get yourself fit without having to go to the gym and spending lots of nasty monthly payments on a. Gym membership

An agreement is a communicated exchange which is clearly understood.  For example, “I agree to work certain hours for this income,” or “I agree to honor my partner in the way we discussed.” An expectation is actually an assumption we place upon another, without their consent or choice, for the outcome we desire.  For example, “I expect my partner to know why I’m upset and respond accordingly,” or “I expect my child to be this or that because it meets my needs.” Communication is the difference in expectation or agreement; and often, the foundation of all healthy relationships.  Are you able to negotiate your wants with others?

An agreement is a communicated exchange which is clearly understood. For example, “I agree to work certain hours for this income,” or “I agree to honor my partner in the way we discussed.” An expectation is actually an assumption we place upon another, without their consent or choice, for the outcome we desire. For example, “I expect my partner to know why I’m upset and respond accordingly,” or “I expect my child to be this or that because it meets my needs.” Communication is the difference in expectation or agreement; and often, the foundation of all healthy relationships. Are you able to negotiate your wants with others?

I've been playing the shiiiiitt out of Pokémon Let's Go Pikachu! I've got my cute little mew flying around with me and pikachu on my shoulder 😊 what did you guys do this weekend?!
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This citrus cookie (80mg THC) from Birch + Fog was actually pretty tasty! The flavour wasn't too strong, and there were little shreds of orange zest in the cookie 😍 I enjoyed eating it the nice mellow buzz that followed shortly after 💕
@birchandfogcanada @birchandfoglife @birchandfogcosmo @birchandfogsocialite 
#birchandfog #ganjagirls #girlswhodab #cannagirls #cannabiscommunity #thc #inkedgirls #piercedgirls #follow #2k18 #tflers #girlswhopowerlift #powerliftingmadethisbody #pokemon #positivity #bodypositivity #selflove #gamer #gamergirl #kawaiigirl #metalhead #altgirl #gothgirl #viking #shieldmaiden #valkyrie #staylifted #highsociety

I've been playing the shiiiiitt out of Pokémon Let's Go Pikachu! I've got my cute little mew flying around with me and pikachu on my shoulder 😊 what did you guys do this weekend?! 🎮 This citrus cookie (80mg THC) from Birch + Fog was actually pretty tasty! The flavour wasn't too strong, and there were little shreds of orange zest in the cookie 😍 I enjoyed eating it the nice mellow buzz that followed shortly after 💕 @birchandfogcanada @birchandfoglife @birchandfogcosmo @birchandfogsocialite #birchandfog #ganjagirls #girlswhodab #cannagirls #cannabiscommunity #thc #inkedgirls #piercedgirls #follow #2k18 #tflers #girlswhopowerlift #powerliftingmadethisbody #pokemon #positivity #bodypositivity #selflove #gamer #gamergirl #kawaiigirl #metalhead #altgirl #gothgirl #viking #shieldmaiden #valkyrie #staylifted #highsociety

COMMUNICATION, part 1 of infinity
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Before you start a hard conversation, check in with yourself. Ask the question: do I know what I want at the end of this conversation? Make sure you can answer this question before you start the conversation, otherwise you’re likely to get sidetracked.
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DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy) breaks our interpersonal goals down into three categories:
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1) Objectives: you want to get something you want, or get someone to do something for you. If this is your primary goal, ask yourself: what specific results do I want out of this interaction?
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2) Relationship: you want to maintain the relationship, resolve conflict, or set a boundary. If this is the primary goal, ask yourself: How do I want the other person to feel about me after the interaction?
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3) Self-respect: you want be in your integrity, act in a way that is congruent with your morals or values. If this us primary, ask yourself: How do I want to feel about myself after this interaction?
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Once you figure out which goal you’re working towards and answer the question about that goal, you can tailor your side of the conversation to steer towards the answer to that question. If you want someone just to understand you (relationship), then you will have a very different conversation than if you want them to understand you and give you something you need (objectives). ▪
For example, let’s say you’re feeling sad. If you want your partner to understand that and feel compassion for you after the interaction (relationship) you might say “I’m feeling sad, and I need you to know what’s going on for me.”
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If you want them to spend more time with you because you’re feeling sad and connection would help (objective) you might say “I’m feeling sad right now, could we spend the evening doing something together?”
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If you just say that you’re feeling sad and then expect them to read your mind about what you need, you’ll leave the conversation more sad. But if you’re clear on what you want--understanding, connection, support--then you can specifically ask for that thing and are more likely to get what you need.

COMMUNICATION, part 1 of infinity ▪ Before you start a hard conversation, check in with yourself. Ask the question: do I know what I want at the end of this conversation? Make sure you can answer this question before you start the conversation, otherwise you’re likely to get sidetracked. ▪ DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy) breaks our interpersonal goals down into three categories: ▪ 1) Objectives: you want to get something you want, or get someone to do something for you. If this is your primary goal, ask yourself: what specific results do I want out of this interaction? ▪ 2) Relationship: you want to maintain the relationship, resolve conflict, or set a boundary. If this is the primary goal, ask yourself: How do I want the other person to feel about me after the interaction? ▪ 3) Self-respect: you want be in your integrity, act in a way that is congruent with your morals or values. If this us primary, ask yourself: How do I want to feel about myself after this interaction? ▪ ▪ Once you figure out which goal you’re working towards and answer the question about that goal, you can tailor your side of the conversation to steer towards the answer to that question. If you want someone just to understand you (relationship), then you will have a very different conversation than if you want them to understand you and give you something you need (objectives). ▪ For example, let’s say you’re feeling sad. If you want your partner to understand that and feel compassion for you after the interaction (relationship) you might say “I’m feeling sad, and I need you to know what’s going on for me.” ▪ If you want them to spend more time with you because you’re feeling sad and connection would help (objective) you might say “I’m feeling sad right now, could we spend the evening doing something together?” ▪ If you just say that you’re feeling sad and then expect them to read your mind about what you need, you’ll leave the conversation more sad. But if you’re clear on what you want--understanding, connection, support--then you can specifically ask for that thing and are more likely to get what you need.

One of those super random not so glamourous picture I stumbled upon in my gallery👩🍀
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One of those super random not so glamourous picture I stumbled upon in my gallery👩🍀 . . . . . . . . #happymoments #photolover #photoofthday #photoeveryday #photos #smile #smiles #love #happiness #smiling #pictureday #instapic #selfcare #selflove #instafamous